Managing thoughts and feelings

Sometimes our thoughts and feelings can be quite unhelpful, making us believe things that might not be true or filling us with negative emotions that are hard to get rid of.

When this happens, you might find it helpful to practise some techniques for managing your thoughts and feelings. To get you started, we've put together a few pointers that you might find useful. You can also make a referral to our service for professional advice and support.

What can you do to help?

There are a number of things you can do to help yourself. You can:

  1. Acknowledge your feelings: When your emotions start to get too much, take a moment to stop and really consider how you're feeling. Are you angry, hurt, jealous, frustrated or something else? Putting a name to your emotions can not only help you identify them but also control them if they're unhelpful.
  2. Reassure yourself: Remember that things can and will get better. There are lots of people who can support you and you don't have to go through this alone.
  3. Keep a mood diary: Tracking how you're feeling can help you see patterns and identify things that maybe make you feel better or worse. Not sure where to start? Download our  simple or  detailed mood diary template. 
  4. Challenge your negative thoughts: In most cases negative thoughts aren't true. Think about things rationally, maybe even ask a friend's opinion to get a different perspective.